I promise these little rants won’t be daily, though I usually do rant at least once a day to one person or another. This started on facebook but I’m moving it here, simply because I can, and because I don’t want Lael’s post to end up a completely different direction than how it started.
Here was her post:
EVERY GIRL SHOULD READ THIS! 😉 WRITTEN BY US MEN.. Girls need to realize, We guys don’t care if you talk to other guys. We don’t care if you’re friends with other guys. But when you’re sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisse…s us off. It doesn’t help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we’re still there. We don’t care if a guy calls>OR TEXTS< you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. That it can’t wait till the morning. Also, when we tell you you’re pretty/ beautiful/gorgeous/cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don’t tell us we’re wrong. We’ll stop trying to convince you. The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. Yeah, you can quote me. Don’t be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood im in. Let us pay for you! dont ‘feel bad’ We enjoy doing it. It’s expected. Smile and say ‘thank you. Kiss us when no one’s watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody’s looking, we’ll be more impressed. You don’t have to get dressed up for us. If we’re going out with you in the first place, you don’t have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for who you are and not what you are. Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she’s just in her pj’s. or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up. Don’t take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it. Don’t get angry easily. Stop using magazines/media as your bible. Don’t talk about how hott Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us. It’s boring, and we don’t care. You have girlfriends for that. Whatever happened to the word “handsome’/ ‘beautiful’ i’d be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with ‘Hey handsome!’ instead of ‘Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/sexy’ or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand im not sayin i wouldnt like it ether. Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren’t being treated right by a guy, dont wait for him to change!!!!! Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect Someone who will honor your morals. Someone who will make you smile when you’re at your lowest. Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes. Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel. Someone who will stop what they’re doing just to look you in the eyes….and say ‘i love you’ ..and actually mean it. Give the nice guys a chance. Guys repost this if you agree. Girls repost this if you think it’s cute.. Every Guy who isn’t a jerk will agree with this, so we hope that all the girls that read this will repost this. Life is too short to complain about everything that comes your way so stop and smell the roses in life because you might never have another time to take it, so take your time because they are all different in every way, so take chances in life, if it doesn’t work out then fine, there are always more roses to smell. ♥
Cute right? Til people started posting their comments right after. 1 in comment in particular got to me, and I do have this guy muted in SL because I don’t like his views on women. Aaaaand because I think he’s full of shit.
1. …… :Great now to add one more thing…. We like sammiches and bacon to…. So… Hint hint nudge nudge…. No… Seriously… Im hungry xD
Now….I wouldn’t call myself a feminist, but I do firmly believe in the human ability in general to take care of yourself, and your needs and wants and whatnot. There are 2 men in my life. 1 I have absolute respect for, the other I don’t.
Man 1: 30 years old, youngest of 10 kids, father of 1. Honestly believes he is entitled to everything he wants, and should get it, his way, and when he wants it. Has a wife that is independant, smart, strong, opinionated, and he wants nothing more than to mold her into this subserviant, dependant, pliable woman like his mother. Love his mother, but, her mind isn’t there and she had no choice but to bend to pretty much everyone around her or she wouldn’t be able to function on her own. Anything he can complain about, he will, even if he knows it will change nothing (seriously, complaining about a class you have to take to get a degree does not change the fact that you have to take the class to get the degree). Basically, he wants, but doesn’t want to work for it.
Man 2: 20 years old, living with a roommate. Oldest of 3. Also in school. Had a rough childhood and as a teenager had to grow up very quickly, thus he has the life experiance of a 45 year old. Believes that in order to get what you need, or what you want, you need to work for it, and he does. He works hard, and earns everything he has with that hard work. He doesn’t complain about things he can’t change. If he is hungry, he will get off his couch and he will cook it himself. If something needs to be done, he will do it, simply because it needs to be done. Dude even takes charge and cleans his own house, and really loves his hardwood floors. He told me.
Guess which one I’m married to in RL. Then guess which one I’d like to be married to. Not really a hard guess there I know, but still.
This doesn’t just apply to men, I just happen to see this entitlement issue more often in men, but I do believe that it applies to both genders. Seriously, if you need something, do it your damn self. Get off your ass and make yourself a sandwich. And while you’re at it, maybe bring me one. You don’t have to but I do like surprises, and I really like turkey with mayo and maybe some tomato on it. K thanks. 🙂